How to be a prisoner

cute frog statue in a bird cage

“Care about what others think and you will always be their prisoner.” ~Lao Tzu

I used to think that caring about another person meant that I had to care about what they thought of me, but I’ve learned over time that I can actually care about another person better when I am not caught up in trying to edit who I am to manipulate their opinion of me. Setting them free to think whatever they think sets me free to be true to who I actually am.

Go into the dark

red leaves on branch in the dark

“To go in the dark with a light is to know light.
To know the dark, go dark. Go without sight,
And find that the dark, too, blooms and sings,
And is traveled by dark feet and dark wings.”
~Wendell Berry

We fear the dark places in life for their danger and uncertainty and pain, but there is treasure to be found in those dark places if we are willing to go into the dark open to finding it there.

The strongest oak tree

oak tree standing alone in a field with setting sun behind it

“The strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It’s the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun.” ~Napoleon Hill

Like an oak tree, we grow stronger by having faced life’s challenges. That’s one of the many forms that our kintsugi gold can take.