The best assumption

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“All I know is that my life is better when I assume people are doing their best.” ~BrenĂ© Brown

It’s so easy to assume the worst of others, and the self-righteous anger in that moment can be an addicting high. But life is so much better when we assume that others are doing their best and move toward compassion instead when we see that they don’t have the resources to do better.

Learning to rest

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“One of the best things you can learn to do is rest, rather than give up.” ~Richard Branson

In our busy, overworked culture, rest is often seen as laziness and is therefore avoided. Yet it’s hard to be resilient and creative and able to heal when we are overwhelmed and exhausted. We wind up giving up on the things that matter most out of exhaustion when what we really need is space to rest and regain our strength. How do you allow yourself to rest?

To be rooted

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“To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul.” ~Simone Weil

To be rooted is to belong. That belonging may be in community, in relationship, in meaning, in purpose, in a place or some other form of belonging. How well are you rooted? What are you rooted in?

Making an identity of pain

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“As long as you make an identity for yourself out of pain, you cannot be free of it.” ~Eckhart Tolle

When we are grieving deeply, our pain can be so overwhelming that it seems to have taken over our entire life and identity. It’s important to remember that no matter how intense our relationship is with our pain, it is still not who we are. When we remind ourselves that it’s just something we are in relationship with (even an overwhelming intense one at times), it helps us keep our identity separate from it so that we do not find ourselves stuck with it for good.