Choose to soften

“We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.” ~Pema Chödrön (from The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times)

Which will you choose? I hope you’ll choose to let life soften you. Not only does the world needs more kindness and openness, but you’ll also find greater happiness that way.

 

Adapted from an image originally created by Ylanite Koppens from Pixabay

The importance of saying no

“I need to create an environment where I can be my best self, and that means being unapologetic about saying no to things that don’t serve me or move me closer to my purpose and the things that I care about the most.” ~Alicia Garza

Most of us feel guilty about saying no. We hate disappointing people and feel like we’re failing when we can’t be and do all the things everyone wants from us.

The truth is that our time and energy are limited. If we truly want to be our best selves and spend our lives on things that matter, it is absolutely crucial for us to say no to those things that don’t help us do that.

Just because something is someone else’s priority doesn’t make it ours, and it doesn’t make us bad people for saying no. Focus on your own purpose and say no to anything and everything that doesn’t serve that.

 

Adapted from an original image created by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay