I want to unfold

pink flower with petals opening to sun

“I want to unfold. Let no place in me hold itself closed, for where I am closed, I am false…” ~Rainer Maria Rilke

It’s so easy to close myself off thinking that it will protect me, but those places where I am closed off, I am being false to who I am meant to be. I want to learn to unfold and open myself to life, even when it feels scary, because living in truth ultimately seems safer than being closed off. What do you think?

Embracing the totality of your experience

a red "angel" rubber duck and black "devil" rubber duck facing each other

“You build inner strength through embracing the totality of your experience, both the delightful parts and the difficult parts. Embracing the totality of your experience is one definition of having loving-kindness for yourself.” ~Pema Chödrön

It’s so tempting to try to reject the difficult parts of ourselves, our lives, and our experiences, but learning to embrace all of who we are and what we experience (even as we may work to change it) is a much more self-compassionate way of being that leads to wholeness rather than living in constant rejection of parts of our reality.

What strengthens your wings?

butterfly on flower petal next to water drop

“Run, my dear, from anyone and anything that does not strengthen your precious budding wings.” ~Hafiz

When we’re ready to take flight and our wings begin to grow and strengthen, there will always be people, circumstances, and things that would hold us back and try to keep us small. Fleeing from those is the only thing that gives us the space we need to develop our ability to soar.

What’s holding you back?

Good enough

yellow marigold flower among group of blue bachelor button flowers

“What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.” ~Carl Rogers

How often we try to change ourselves to be more like who we (or others) think we should be! We do it thinking that who we really are isn’t good enough. The truth is that if we would live fully into who we are, that is already good enough. It’s only these artificial, bent-out-of-true-shape versions of ourselves that are lacking (because they’re not really who we are).

How to be a prisoner

cute frog statue in a bird cage

“Care about what others think and you will always be their prisoner.” ~Lao Tzu

I used to think that caring about another person meant that I had to care about what they thought of me, but I’ve learned over time that I can actually care about another person better when I am not caught up in trying to edit who I am to manipulate their opinion of me. Setting them free to think whatever they think sets me free to be true to who I actually am.