“Wholeness does not mean perfection – it means embracing brokenness as an integral part of life.” ~Parker J Palmer
How do you treat the broken places in your life? Have you tried embracing them as a integral part of life? It is possible to embrace them even while working toward healing. That’s the way to wholeness.
“That which is not accepted is not transformed.” ~Jean-Ives Leloup
Accepting our wounds, our broken places, our weaknesses, our faults does not mean we have to like them or be grateful for their existence; it simply means accepting the reality of what is true about our lives in this moment. It is only when we can accept our reality that it is possible for it to be transformed into something more valuable.
“The point is that our true nature is not some ideal that we have to live up to. It’s who we are right now, and that’s what we can make friends with and celebrate.” ~Pema Chödrön, from Awakening Loving-Kindness
Learning self-compassion is not about trying to make ourselves into something “better.” It’s about learning to love and appreciate who we are right now.
“Instead of asking ourselves, “How can I find security and happiness?” we could ask ourselves, “Can I touch the center of my pain? Can I sit with suffering, both yours and mine, without trying to make it go away? Can I stay present to the ache of loss or disgrace—disappointment in all its many forms—and let it open me?” This is the trick.” ~Pema Chödrön
How well are you able to sit with your own suffering? What about the suffering of others? The only way to heal our pain is by going through it, and that means being able to sit with it, open to it, and touch its very center. We need to be able to do that for ourselves and accompany others as they do the same, without rushing to make it all go away. This may be the hardest challenge most of us will ever face.
“The route to wholeness is not perfection but embracing the realities of our lives.” ~David G. Benner
The gold of our healing often comes more through our embrace of our lives and ourselves exactly as they are than through any movement toward a perfect ideal. Finding the beauty in our imperfections brings much more peace than the striving for perfection ever can.