“You build inner strength through embracing the totality of your experience, both the delightful parts and the difficult parts. Embracing the totality of your experience is one definition of having loving-kindness for yourself.” ~Pema Chödrön
It’s so tempting to try to reject the difficult parts of ourselves, our lives, and our experiences, but learning to embrace all of who we are and what we experience (even as we may work to change it) is a much more self-compassionate way of being that leads to wholeness rather than living in constant rejection of parts of our reality.
“Open your heart to who you are, right now,
Not who you would like to be.
Not the saint you’re striving to become.
But the being right here before you, inside you, around you.”
Want to grow? Want to become an even better version of you? The pathway always begins with learning to open your heart and love yourself just as you are first. Love is the best foundation from which to grow.
“Wholeness does not mean perfection – it means embracing brokenness as an integral part of life.” ~Parker J Palmer
How do you treat the broken places in your life? Have you tried embracing them as a integral part of life? It is possible to embrace them even while working toward healing. That’s the way to wholeness.
“That which is not accepted is not transformed.” ~Jean-Ives Leloup
Accepting our wounds, our broken places, our weaknesses, our faults does not mean we have to like them or be grateful for their existence; it simply means accepting the reality of what is true about our lives in this moment. It is only when we can accept our reality that it is possible for it to be transformed into something more valuable.
“The point is that our true nature is not some ideal that we have to live up to. It’s who we are right now, and that’s what we can make friends with and celebrate.” ~Pema Chödrön, from Awakening Loving-Kindness
Learning self-compassion is not about trying to make ourselves into something “better.” It’s about learning to love and appreciate who we are right now.