“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” ~Carlos Castenada
The amount of work is the same, and it involves all those little choices we make about how we perceive things, the stories we tell ourselves, the thoughts we choose to entertain, and the ways we decide to respond. Those little choices add up to making ourselves either miserable or strong. Which one are you choosing?
When facing a difficult decision or selecting goals for your life, the reality of your death and the shortness of life can be a great advisor by adjusting your perspective to those things that matter most. When death is your advisor, the superfluous quickly falls away leaving the options that best align with your inner values highlighted.
“Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.” ~Henri Nouwen
It’s so easy to get caught up in our duties, responsibilities, and the challenges that face us every day that we miss the opportunities to choose joy along the way.
By choosing joy—choosing to watch for it, to give it our attention, to embrace it when it arises—we make space for it to blossom in our lives. It’s a choice we need to make over and over again every day to keep it from being drown out in our worries and cares.
“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo.
“So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” ~JRR Tolkien (from The Fellowship of the Ring)
It’s so easy to spend our time wishing we were facing some other set of circumstances, living in some other time and place, or had made some other big choice in life that would have led us to a different situation, but they only thing we can decide upon is what to do with the life we have here and now just as it really is.
Facing what is and dealing with it as it is in a proactive way will get us much farther along than ignoring the situation.
What do you need to decide today about the time that is given you?
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