The path to self betrayal

“Ignoring your intuition and denying what you know in your gut is self betrayal.” ~Maryam Hasnaa

In a culture that undervalues intuition and non-rational sources of knowledge, we all have learned to discount that knowing. I’m all too often guilty of it myself. Time has taught me that ignoring that knowing always winds up being a place of self betrayal and regret.

What knowing are you ignoring or denying right now? What would it take to stop betraying yourself and act on that knowing?

 

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Sail away from the safe harbor

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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~Mark Twain

As we head into a new year, it can be tempting to focus on how we will try to better conform to who others think we should be or to better squeeze ourselves into a “safe,” confined life. What if you were to dream larger and aim for becoming a bigger, more outrageous, more authentic version of yourself instead? What would that look like for you?

The courage of living out loud

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One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go. ~Sheila Murray Bethel

It’s so easy to float through life without answering these questions or taking a stand for them. Do you clearly know who you are, what you believe in, and where you want to go? What steps are you taking to live those realities out loud?

What can you sit with?

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“Instead of asking ourselves, “How can I find security and happiness?” we could ask ourselves, “Can I touch the center of my pain? Can I sit with suffering, both yours and mine, without trying to make it go away? Can I stay present to the ache of loss or disgrace—disappointment in all its many forms—and let it open me?” This is the trick.” ~Pema Chödrön

How well are you able to sit with your own suffering? What about the suffering of others? The only way to heal our pain is by going through it, and that means being able to sit with it, open to it, and touch its very center. We need to be able to do that for ourselves and accompany others as they do the same, without rushing to make it all go away. This may be the hardest challenge most of us will ever face.