“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~Mark Twain
As we head into a new year, it can be tempting to focus on how we will try to better conform to who others think we should be or to better squeeze ourselves into a “safe,” confined life. What if you were to dream larger and aim for becoming a bigger, more outrageous, more authentic version of yourself instead? What would that look like for you?
One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go. ~Sheila Murray Bethel
It’s so easy to float through life without answering these questions or taking a stand for them. Do you clearly know who you are, what you believe in, and where you want to go? What steps are you taking to live those realities out loud?
“Whatever we avoid weakens us. Whatever we face strengthens us.” ~Jennifer Kass
How do you deal with the difficult challenges that life brings your way?
What about the difficult emotions that arise with those challenges?
Do you face them or avoid them?
Facing them may be harder in the moment, but it strengthens us in the long term to be more able to handle future challenges.
“Instead of asking ourselves, “How can I find security and happiness?” we could ask ourselves, “Can I touch the center of my pain? Can I sit with suffering, both yours and mine, without trying to make it go away? Can I stay present to the ache of loss or disgrace—disappointment in all its many forms—and let it open me?” This is the trick.” ~Pema Chödrön
How well are you able to sit with your own suffering? What about the suffering of others? The only way to heal our pain is by going through it, and that means being able to sit with it, open to it, and touch its very center. We need to be able to do that for ourselves and accompany others as they do the same, without rushing to make it all go away. This may be the hardest challenge most of us will ever face.
“Owning your story is the bravest thing you will ever do.” ~Brené Brown
How well do you own your story? Are you still allowing others to dictate your story instead?
It takes courage to take charge of your own story, but there is freedom to be had in doing so. What do you need to do to better own your story today?