What your fears need

What your fears need

“The things that frighten us just want to be held.” ~Mark Nepo

When we can hold our fears gently with compassion and kindness, they cease to be monsters and turn into helpful friends that can guide us to avoid danger without holding us back from all life has to offer.


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I am still here

I am still here

“Gratitude is the capacity to stare doubt, loss, chaos and despair right in the eye and say, ‘I am still here.’” ~Diana Butler Bass

When standing in the middle of one of life’s storms, still finding room for gratitude allows us to claim our survival in the face of whatever confronts us. Where are you finding space for gratitude right now?


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The only way out

The only way out is in

“You can never run away. Not ever. The only way out is in.” ~Junot Díaz

When I’m hurting, my first impulse is always escape. I want to run away from the pain, the confusion, the fear, or the heartache.

It never works. No matter how far or how fast I run, I inevitably bring all of that anguish with me because I can’t escape what’s inside me.

The only way through it is to go inward and face those difficult emotions head on and work through them. Every single time.


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fancy shoes

“Perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

Perfectionism isn’t the virtue it claims to be. It’s just the same old fear of not being good enough hiding in a different costume.

Once you see through its disguise and learn that your worth has nothing to do with your performance, this harsh taskmaster will lose its power over you.


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Choose to soften

“We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice.” ~Pema Chödrön (from The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times)

Which will you choose? I hope you’ll choose to let life soften you. Not only does the world needs more kindness and openness, but you’ll also find greater happiness that way.


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