Balancing our focus

“In every change, in every falling leaf there is some pain, some beauty. And that’s the way new leaves grow.” ~Amit Ray

Our brains tend to tightly latch onto the pain of loss in the changes life brings our way. It’s a natural part of survival instinct to focus on this part of our experience, but it’s only a part of what’s actually happening in every change we face.

Just like autumn’s falling leaves, change also brings beauty and new beginnings along with it. We just need to work a little harder to make sure we notice and pay attention to those truths since our brains are less likely to do that for us.

When you take the time to look, where can you find beauty and new beginnings hiding in whatever changes are happening in your life right now? What would it take to intentionally focus on those to counter-balance your brain’s natural tendency to focus on pain and loss?


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The importance of saying no

“I need to create an environment where I can be my best self, and that means being unapologetic about saying no to things that don’t serve me or move me closer to my purpose and the things that I care about the most.” ~Alicia Garza

Most of us feel guilty about saying no. We hate disappointing people and feel like we’re failing when we can’t be and do all the things everyone wants from us.

The truth is that our time and energy are limited. If we truly want to be our best selves and spend our lives on things that matter, it is absolutely crucial for us to say no to those things that don’t help us do that.

Just because something is someone else’s priority doesn’t make it ours, and it doesn’t make us bad people for saying no. Focus on your own purpose and say no to anything and everything that doesn’t serve that.


Adapted from an original image created by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

The end may also be the beginning


“The world is round, and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning.” ~Ivy Baker Priest

Sometimes with endings we are looking forward to (like a graduation), it is easy to see how the ending also marks the beginning of something new.

More often, when the ending is not something we would have chosen for ourselves, we can stare so long as the door that has shut in front of us that we miss the new beginning that is also taking place.

There are times when figuring out why the ending happened, determining whether it’s really an ending or just a temporary pause, or working out issues related to the ending are important, but be sure you spend just as much time watching for and creating the new beginning that is equally present.

What new beginnings have endings created in your life? Are you making the most of those beginnings?

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