Choosing our response

Choosing our response

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ~Viktor Frankl

Learning to recognize and take advantage of that space is one of the most self-empowering things we can ever do because it returns our choices back to us. Growth and freedom always comes in taking advantage of those choices rather than defaulting to our current programming.

How to be a prisoner

cute frog statue in a bird cage

“Care about what others think and you will always be their prisoner.” ~Lao Tzu

I used to think that caring about another person meant that I had to care about what they thought of me, but I’ve learned over time that I can actually care about another person better when I am not caught up in trying to edit who I am to manipulate their opinion of me. Setting them free to think whatever they think sets me free to be true to who I actually am.

The scary freedom of a butterfly

drawn butterfly in black against stylized background

“It’s hard to know whether to laugh or to cry at the human predicament. Here we are with so much wisdom and tenderness, and—without even knowing it—we cover it over to protect ourselves from insecurity. Although we have the potential to experience the freedom of a butterfly, we mysteriously prefer the small and fearful cocoon of ego.” ~Pema Chödrön

How often fear tempts us into being a smaller version of ourselves as we seek to protect ourselves, and yet what amazing freedom lies beyond that cocoon of ego when we are able to face fear without hiding away our deeper wisdom and tenderness.