“People never harm others out of joy, they give pain to others because they too are hurt or in pain.” ~Sobonfu Somé
It’s not selfish to seek to heal our own pain or to create more joy in our lives because it doesn’t just make our lives better, it also stops the spread of pain when we reduce our own pain. Pain is contagious because hurting people hurt others.
“Some people see scars, and it is wounding they remember. To me they are proof of the fact that there is healing.” ~Linda Hogan
What do you see when you look at your own scars?
“Do not wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing.” ~Najwa Zebian
I have to remind myself of this often because it’s so easy to fall into wishing for revenge, but that’s not who I want to be. I want to be someone who sees another’s pain and wishes for healing, not more pain.
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“Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” ~Pema Chödrön
I love this description of where healing come from. It’s not about fixing anything; it’s just about making room for the continual process of death and resurrection and all of the emotions that go along with that.
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~C.S. Lewis
Sometimes letting go of whatever has caused us pain is the hardest thing to do, but it’s still a necessary step toward moving forward into healing.
What do you need to let go of?
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