“Do not wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing.” ~Najwa Zebian
I have to remind myself of this often because it’s so easy to fall into wishing for revenge, but that’s not who I want to be. I want to be someone who sees another’s pain and wishes for healing, not more pain.
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“Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” ~Pema Chödrön
I love this description of where healing come from. It’s not about fixing anything; it’s just about making room for the continual process of death and resurrection and all of the emotions that go along with that.
“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~C.S. Lewis
Sometimes letting go of whatever has caused us pain is the hardest thing to do, but it’s still a necessary step toward moving forward into healing.
What do you need to let go of?
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“Things falling apart is also a kind of healing.” ~Pema Chödrön
Sometimes, like with this hole in the Berlin Wall, things that fall apart are actually openings to free us from the constraints that we’ve build around ourselves. Although it may not feel like healing at first, time may well show how each falling apart was actually a form of healing that isn’t visible until we can see it in the distance of hindsight.
Where can you see glimpses of healing in the things that have fallen apart in your past?
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“I’ve been searching for ways to heal myself, and I’ve found that kindness is the best way.” ~Lady Gaga
We so often think that beating ourselves up or acting like our own personal drill sergeant is the best way to push ourselves to heal and grow, but self-kindness is almost always the best path to healing.
Treat yourself with some extra kindness today!