What we allow the mark of our suffering to become

“Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us, but need not scar us for life. It does mark us. What we allow the mark of our suffering to become is in our own hands.” ~bell hooks

This really gets to the essence of kintsugi living, doesn’t it? We always have the choice of “what we allow the mark of our suffering to become.” We can choose to find (and become) the gold of healing.

Do not hide your wounds

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“In a futile attempt to erase our past, we deprive the community of our healing gift. If we conceal our wounds out of fear and shame, our inner darkness can neither be illuminated nor become a light for others.” ~Brennan Manning

So many of us have been taught that our wounds are signs of weakness or defectiveness on our part, but wounds are a normal part of living. They are nothing to be ashamed of or to hide.

When we release these messages of shame that we have gotten from our culture, we create space for healing to take place and, in the process, for our own healing to spread to those around us.

This is what living a kintsugi life is all about!