“The point is that our true nature is not some ideal that we have to live up to. It’s who we are right now, and that’s what we can make friends with and celebrate.” ~Pema Chödrön, from Awakening Loving-Kindness
Learning self-compassion is not about trying to make ourselves into something “better.” It’s about learning to love and appreciate who we are right now.
“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love. ~Hubert H. Humphrey
We have so much power to make a positive difference in the lives our friends. Are you taking the opportunities available to you for your healing and for theirs?
“Christmas, my child, is love in action. Every time we love, every time we give, it’s Christmas.” ~Dale Evans
What is one small way that you can be love in action today?
“Did I offer peace today?
Did I bring a smile to someone’s face?
Did I say words of healing?
Did I let go of my anger and resentment?
Did I forgive?
Did I love?
These are the real questions.” ~Henri Nouwen
I tend to measure my days by how much I crossed off my to do list. I set the value on the day’s accomplishments by the answers to questions like:
- Did I get all of today’s orders packed up to ship tomorrow?
- Did I make finish enough new pieces to replenish my inventory?
- Did I answer all of my customers’ questions?
- Did I get all of the newly completed pieces fully photographed and written up to add to the shop?
- Did I finish all of my errands and household chores for today?
- Did I finish my blog post/social media posting/weekly email for tomorrow?
I’m sure you have your own list that measures your day (consciously or unconsciously). I have to remind myself over and over again that none of the questions on that list really matter in the long run.
Henri Nouwen brings us back to the real questions that matter. It all comes down to whether I showed love to others, to my world, to myself, to the Divine.
When you consider the real questions as the measure of your day instead of your to-do list, how does that change the way you approach your day?
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” ~Dalai Lama
The continual, ongoing violence all around us demonstrates the truth of this daily. It’s so tempting to react with anger and fear, but they will only increase the problem.
What can you do today to increase the amount of love and compassion you bring to your life and to the world around you?
That’s not something to consider or to pursue when you have the luxury of spare time. It’s a necessity for all of us to enact to the best of our ability today and every day!