“Do not wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing.” ~Najwa Zebian
I have to remind myself of this often because it’s so easy to fall into wishing for revenge, but that’s not who I want to be. I want to be someone who sees another’s pain and wishes for healing, not more pain.
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“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~C.S. Lewis
Sometimes letting go of whatever has caused us pain is the hardest thing to do, but it’s still a necessary step toward moving forward into healing.
What do you need to let go of?
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“As long as you make an identity for yourself out of pain, you cannot be free of it.” ~Eckhart Tolle
When we are grieving deeply, our pain can be so overwhelming that it seems to have taken over our entire life and identity. It’s important to remember that no matter how intense our relationship is with our pain, it is still not who we are. When we remind ourselves that it’s just something we are in relationship with (even an overwhelming intense one at times), it helps us keep our identity separate from it so that we do not find ourselves stuck with it for good.
“To demand that others should provide you with answers is like asking a strange woman to give birth to your baby. There are insights that can be born only of your own pain, and they are most precious.” ~Janusz Korczak
I so often want others to give me life’s answers, but I’ve always discovered life’s most important answers inside myself. What answers might you need to stop looking for anyone else to give you, so that you can find them yourself instead?
“Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future.” ~Robert H. Schuller
It’s so easy to let our past losses shape our future, but we do so much better to learn from the losses and continue to let our hopes guide our way forward. Which do you allow to shape your future?