“People never harm others out of joy, they give pain to others because they too are hurt or in pain.” ~Sobonfu Somé
It’s not selfish to seek to heal our own pain or to create more joy in our lives because it doesn’t just make our lives better, it also stops the spread of pain when we reduce our own pain. Pain is contagious because hurting people hurt others.
What hurts you, blesses you.
Darkness is your candle.
Your boundaries are your quest.
What blessing can you find hidden in whatever darkness you are facing? Don’t dismiss what hurts you. Instead, dive deep to find what it can teach you.
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“Do not wish them pain. That’s not who you are. If they caused you pain, they must have pain inside. Wish them healing.” ~Najwa Zebian
I have to remind myself of this often because it’s so easy to fall into wishing for revenge, but that’s not who I want to be. I want to be someone who sees another’s pain and wishes for healing, not more pain.
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“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~C.S. Lewis
Sometimes letting go of whatever has caused us pain is the hardest thing to do, but it’s still a necessary step toward moving forward into healing.
What do you need to let go of?
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“As long as you make an identity for yourself out of pain, you cannot be free of it.” ~Eckhart Tolle
When we are grieving deeply, our pain can be so overwhelming that it seems to have taken over our entire life and identity. It’s important to remember that no matter how intense our relationship is with our pain, it is still not who we are. When we remind ourselves that it’s just something we are in relationship with (even an overwhelming intense one at times), it helps us keep our identity separate from it so that we do not find ourselves stuck with it for good.