fancy shoes

“Perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert

Perfectionism isn’t the virtue it claims to be. It’s just the same old fear of not being good enough hiding in a different costume.

Once you see through its disguise and learn that your worth has nothing to do with your performance, this harsh taskmaster will lose its power over you.


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Imperfect offerings


“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There’s a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.” ~Leonard Cohen (from the song “Anthem”)

These lyrics have been on my mind a lot in the last couple of weeks—partially because of Leonard Cohen’s death last week and partially because I needed this reminder.

As a perfectionist, I tend to want to wait to act or speak until I have devised the perfect response to the moment, but that means I too often never do or say anything.

I appreciate the reminder that a perfect offering is not what is needed. What is needed is for me to show up and offer whatever it is I have to give for the healing and renewal of the world around me, no matter how imperfect my offering may be.

What are you able to give to the world around you here and now—no matter how imperfect it may be? Will you offer it anyway?


On learning by experiment

toddler walking

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.” ~Richard Branson

As a perfectionist by nature, I tend to think that I can’t do new things perfectly from the start, I shouldn’t do them at all. So I often try to master all of the rules before I’ll even give it that first try.

As you can imagine, I’ve missed out on any number of opportunities through the years with this way of doing things.

But this way of approaching new things is a choice I’ve made along the way (albeit an unconscious one). I wasn’t born this way. Once upon a time, I learned to walk by trying and falling over just like everyone else, so I know it’s possible even for me to do things differently.

As I’ve focused on re-learning how to live life experimentally—trying something new, falling, learning from the fall, getting up, trying it again a little better—life has expanded in so many ways as I learn to do all kinds of new things.

I’m learning to treat those falling-over moments as opportunities to learn and improve my approach for the next experimental attempt toward whatever new skill I’m practicing.

I have to say that this approach sure does make life a whole lot more fun!

What are you working on learning right now? Are you willing to get out there and do it, even if you fall over a time or two in the process?

Posts from other divisions of Chrysalis Wellness for this week

Angel figurine
Rethinking self-care as thought-care from the A Kintsugi Life blog
Silky calm cold process soap bar
Silky calm cold process soap bar from Autumn Leaf Botanicals featured products
Blue dumortierite stacking stretch bracelet with stardust sterling silver focal bead
Blue dumortierite stacking stretch bracelet with stardust sterling silver focal bead from the Earthwear Collection portfolio