“I need to create an environment where I can be my best self, and that means being unapologetic about saying no to things that don’t serve me or move me closer to my purpose and the things that I care about the most.” ~Alicia Garza
Most of us feel guilty about saying no. We hate disappointing people and feel like we’re failing when we can’t be and do all the things everyone wants from us.
The truth is that our time and energy are limited. If we truly want to be our best selves and spend our lives on things that matter, it is absolutely crucial for us to say no to those things that don’t help us do that.
Just because something is someone else’s priority doesn’t make it ours, and it doesn’t make us bad people for saying no. Focus on your own purpose and say no to anything and everything that doesn’t serve that.
“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flame.” ~Mevlana Rumi
Life fully lived is a life on fire with purpose and enthusiasm. If you’re still trying to live safely in blandness (and aren’t we all in some way?), what would it look like to set your life on fire? Who would help fan your flames to keep you alive and glowing bright?
“True inward quietness is not vacancy, but stability—the steadfastness of a single purpose.” ~Caroline Stephen
It’s so easy to think of quiet as an absence or an emptiness of noise and excitement, but a true inner quietness is not an emptiness at all. It is a matter of knowing what matters and staying focused on without being distracted by all the surrounding chaos.
Of course, this requires knowing your single purpose, knowing what matters in your life beyond all else to know where to focus.
How do you live into this inner quietness that is a stable steadfastness?
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