Disappointing the right people

“Know that whatever you do, you will disappoint someone. That’s okay. Just don’t disappoint yourself.” ~Michelle Marks

Disappointing other people is hard and uncomfortable for most of us, but the reality is that no matter how we contort ourselves to fit other people’s expectations, there will always be someone who is disappointed. It’s much healthier to make sure you stay true to yourself. Disappointing yourself is harder to live with in the long run than disappointing someone else.

 

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Expanding our view of joy

“What if joy is not only entangled with pain, or suffering, or sorrow, but is also what emerges from how we care for each other through those things? What if joy, instead of refuge or relief from heartbreak, is what effloresces from us as we help each other carry our heartbreaks?” ~Ross Gay

Joy can be found in unexpected places when we look for it. Recognizing it in these unlikely moments can help make it easier to motivate ourselves to support one another through our heartbreaks.

 

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Sitting with pain

Sitting with pain

“When we are brave enough to sit with our pain, it deepens our ability to sit with the pain of others. It shows us how to love them.” ~Valarie Kaur

When we are in pain, everything in our being urges us to escape it. It takes great courage to just sit with the pain and experience it. Not only is facing the pain directly the best way to get through our own pain, it also deepens our capacity to be able to sit with others who are in pain so we can better show our love in their difficult times.

 

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What you scatter

What you scatter

“It is not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived.” ~Helen Walton

On days when I’m hurting, anxious, exhausted, or stressed, it’s hard for me to bring my best self to my interactions. In those moments, remembering that what I put out in the world is the most important measure of my life motivates me to do my best even in the most trying moments.

What helps you bring your best self to the world around you on difficult days?

 

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