“What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.” ~Carl Rogers
How often we try to change ourselves to be more like who we (or others) think we should be! We do it thinking that who we really are isn’t good enough. The truth is that if we would live fully into who we are, that is already good enough. It’s only these artificial, bent-out-of-true-shape versions of ourselves that are lacking (because they’re not really who we are).
“Care about what others think and you will always be their prisoner.” ~Lao Tzu
I used to think that caring about another person meant that I had to care about what they thought of me, but I’ve learned over time that I can actually care about another person better when I am not caught up in trying to edit who I am to manipulate their opinion of me. Setting them free to think whatever they think sets me free to be true to who I actually am.
“Your heart is the size of an ocean. Go find yourself in its hidden depths.” ~Rumi
We so often underestimate the depths and the wisdom contained in our own hearts. We go looking outside ourselves for what can only be found in the depths of our own hearts. Dive deep and you may be surprised at what riches you find.
“‘I love myself.’ the quietest. simplest. most powerful revolution. ever.” ~Nayyirah Waheed
We tend to shrink away from the idea of loving ourselves, as if it is too egotistical or conceited. The truth is that learning to truly love ourselves transforms everything. It is the most powerful revolution possible.
“Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” ~Harvey Fierstein
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of allowing other people (and their expectations) to define us. It takes courage to define ourselves. How have you defined yourself?