You aren’t lost

“You aren’t lost, you’re just in an uncomfortable stage of your life where your old self is gone but your new self hasn’t been born yet. You’re in the midst of transformation.” ~Marcos Alvorado

The process of transformation can feel a lot like being lost. The familiar landmarks of our map of the world have disappeared, and new ones haven’t emerged yet.

When you find yourself in this place, give yourself grace and celebrate the transformation that’s on its way. That will make the process go much easier than beating yourself up.

 


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Joy is the transformation of our suffering

Joy is the transformation of our suffering

“Joy is the transformation of our suffering, not the escape of all we have to face.” ~Mark Nepo

I tend to (subconsciously) think of joy as being the absence of suffering, which makes it hard to come by. Joy as a transformation of suffering opens so many more opportunities to step into joy because there’s always plenty of suffering to be transformed.

 

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Love empowers transformation

Love empowers transformation

“Go and love someone exactly as they are. And then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered.” ~Wes Angelozzi

This is just as true for yourself as for others. If you truly want to empower transformation into your best self, learning to love yourself exactly as you are is a much more successful path than self-criticism and self-berating. (Don’t believe me? Take a good look at how little self-criticism has supported positive transformation so far. Maybe it’s time to try self-love instead.)

 

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Ongoing transformation

Ongoing transformation

“Allow yourself to transform as many times as you need to be totally free.” ~Yung Pueblo

Every time I’ve allowed myself to undergo major transformation, I always feel like I’ve reached the end of what’s possible. Like an onion, however, there are always more layers waiting to be peeled away with new rounds of transformation. Each one peels away beliefs, patterns, habits, or situations that have kept me trapped so that each one leaves me with greater freedom. That experience of freedom encourages me each time I face a new round of choosing the challenge of allowing myself to be transformed.

How often do you allow yourself to be transformed?

 

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Growth is a process

Growth is a process

“You do not just wake up and become the butterfly—Growth is a process.” ~Rupi Kaur

No matter how badly I may want to see changes in myself overnight, internal growth and transformation is always a slow process. Just like the caterpillar must do in the chrysalis, real transformation requires letting go of who I was before I can grow into what I’m becoming.

On those days when it feels like my life is crumbling around my ears, I cling to image of the butterfly and remind myself again and again of the importance of letting go, waiting patiently through the hidden and often undefined process of unbecoming and re-becoming in the chrysalis, and being ready to spread my wings once it’s time to emerge.

Just because I feel lost and uncertain doesn’t mean I’m on the wrong track. It usually means that I’m right where I need to be in the process of growth.

 

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